It is hard for your friends and family to understand why you may be considering adoption. Your parents may be thinking of their grandchild and your friends cannot wait to hold and play with the baby. In the long run, you are the one who will be responsible for this child for 18 years or more. This is your decision to make. You need to feel comfortable about your decision and feel that you are choosing the life that is right for your child. We will be glad to help you talk to your family and friends about your options and decision to help them to understand.2. Do I have to be Catholic to use your agency?
No. We serve people regardless of race, nationality or religion.3. Why is it best to use a local (within state) agency for adoption?
Thinking about placing a child for adoption can be a very difficult decision. It is important that you have easy access to a counselor during what can be a very emotional time. There are questions that you need answered and it is helpful if you have someone close by who can meet with you. A local agency will also have information about local resources and services that can be of assistance to you during and after your pregnancy. Working with a local agency will provide you with a choice of adoptive families who live nearby which will make it easier to meet and build a relationship if you choose. A pregnancy counselor is just not available to you during your pregnancy, but can also really be there for after you deliver and place your child.4. How can A Caring Connection help me to decide what is the best option for my pregnancy?
We spend time discussing with each individual who they have around to help out or provide support during this time and after. In addition, time is spent talking about what it takes to parent or to place a baby for adoption. Neither decision is easy and each involves a lot of sacrifice. By carefully examining each option, you can determine which decision you feel is best.5. Will my parents have to be involved if I am under 18 years old and want to make an adoption plan for my child?
You and the father of the baby are the only ones who have parental rights. If you are under 18 years old, you will need to have someone over the age of 18 who will act as your "next of friend.” This person should know you and spent time talking with you about the adoption to make sure that you understand the decision you are making. If adoption is the option that you are considering and you need help talking with your family, the staff at A Caring Connection will be available.6. What rights does the father of the baby have?
The birth father has the same parental rights that you have. If he is interested, he can be a part of the counseling process to help both of you decide on the option that is best. If you are not comfortable talking with him about the fact that you are considering adoption, or you do not know him very well, we will be happy to try to contact and talk with him for you.
7. How much will my child know about me?
You can determine how much information you want the adoptive family to have by choosing the type of adoption you feel is best (open or closed). All adoptions require us to get medical background information so that the child will have a medical history to pass on to doctors. You can keep your identity secret, or you can share as much as you would like with the adoptive family. If you choose to not have an open adoption relationship with the adoptive family, it will be very important for you to pass on to us all of the information that you wish so that we can pass it on to the family for the baby.
You can decide whether or not you will spend time with the baby in the hospital. If you feel that this will be too painful for you, you have the option of having the chosen adoptive couple care for the baby while in the hospital. You also have the option of doing both.9. How do I know the baby will be going to a good home?
A Caring Connection has families who are have been through a long process in order to get ready to adopt. They must meet certain standards and we must complete a home study before they can adopt a child. The home study includes police background checks, employment and personal references, financial checks, physicals , interviews, education groups and home visits. By the time a family has been approved by our agency, we believe that we know them and that they will be good parents. Once a child is placed in a home, we supervise the placement for several months before the family can finalize the adoption. In choosing the family to adopt your child you will have information, pictures and letters provided in an album that tells you about their lifestyle, the reasons they want to adopt and how the child will be raised. If you have an open adoption, you may feel more comfortable by having ongoing contact and seeing that the child is loved and cared for.10. Are there families who want to adopt my baby?
Yes. We have families waiting to adopt all kinds of infants. Our families are unable to give birth themselves and this is the only way they will be able to parent. We can always find a family for any infant.11. When do I need to decide if I am going to make an adoption plan?What if I cannot decide by the time the baby is born?
You can decide at any time during your pregnancy whether or not you would like to make and adoption plan. There are times when someone will go to the hospital and at that time decide that adoption could be a good option for their child. If you have not made contact with us, you can ask the hospital social worker to call and we can meet with you at the hospital. At that time we can discuss our program, how adoption works and give you information that can help you decide what you want to do. We have temporary care available if you need to make a decision regarding adoption or parenting. This is an option to give you more time and we can provide more information when we meet with you. You have the right to change your mind at any time during this adoption planning process, before termination of parental rights, if you decide that adoption is not in the best interest of your child. We will support you in your decision.12. Can I still choose adoption later if parenting does not work out?
Yes. A lot of times, people find parenting a lot more difficult than they expected and feel that they need to look at their options. Just call us and we will be able to help you look at adoption and choose a family if that is your final decision.13. Will I be pressured or encouraged by A Caring Connection toward adoption or parenting?
No, our focus is to support you through this process and the final decision is up to you.
Adoption can be an opportunity for you to take an active part in choosing the life that you think will be best for your child – a life which can include you.